quinta-feira, 30 de agosto de 2007

Rat sign characteristics....

The Rat
Being born a Rat is nothing to be ashamed of. In China, the Rat is respected and considered a courageous, enterprising person. It is deemed an honor to be born in the Year of the Rat and it is considered a privilege to be associated with a Rat. Rats know exactly where to find solutions and can take care of themselves and others without problems. They use their instinctive sense of observation to help others in times of need and are among the most fit of all the Animal signs to survive most any situation.

Years of the Rat
First in the cycle, Rat Years begin the sequence and recur every twelfth year. The Chinese New Year does not fall on a specific date, so it is essential to check the calendar to find the exact date on which each Rat year actually begins.

The Sign of the Rat
Being born under this sign determines many talents, as well as other characteristics that may not be so commendable. Rats are very lively and need a lot of mental and physical stimulation. They can be calm and perceptive, but sometimes their brains can cause a mental restlessness, tempting them to take on too much, only to discover they are unable to meet their commitments. Rats are blessed with one of the best intellects going. Add to their intelligence a curiosity and a bright imagination, and they seem as sharp as a needle.

The sign of the Rat is the first sign in the cycle giving Rat people exude great leadership qualities and are good at taking the lead. They don't mind a lot of responsibility and they demonstrate a strong presence that other people respect. For those with the Rat nature, status and monetary satisfaction are the greatest motivation.

RAT FACTS:
People born in the Year of the Rat share certain characteristics. The Rat sign is an abbreviated way of characterizing that individual's personality. Following are features associated with the sign of the Rat. First in order, Chinese name-SHU, sign of charm
Hour-11pm-12:59am Month-December
Western Counterpart-Sagittarius

CHARACTERISTICS
Smart, Magnetic, Well-liked, Affable, Quick-witted, Surreptitious, Selfish, Protective, Calculating

IN YOUR ELEMENT

The characteristics of the Rat Sign are tempered by one of the five Chinese elements of Metal, Water, Wood, Fire and Earth overlaying a 5-year cycle of characteristics on the original 12-year cycle.

THE METAL RAT 1900 AND 1960
Of all the Rats, these are the toughest and most resolute. They are visionary and possess an emotional intensity that can lead to feelings of rage, envy, or possessiveness. They like to be in charge, and can act selfishly to get what they want. In relationships, business or personal, they can be obstinate. Metal rats have to bear in mind that meeting their partner halfway would help their relationships tremendously. They take great pride in their homes and enjoy decorating them in their impressively good taste.

THE WATER RAT 1912 AND 1972
Being guided by the Water element means these Rats have a knack for influencing people. With their strong intellectual powers and great insight, they are also great puzzle solvers. They are quick to understand others and are incredibly practical people. Rats apply their talents to their everyday lives, making them obliging, generous and compassionate to other people. Generally, they are liked and respected by everyone. Like all Rats, however, they can be determined to seek their own gain, and will not mind using these talents to achieve it - though generally without losing anyone's respect in doing so.

THE WOOD RAT 1924 AND 1984

Despite having a remarkable facade of self-confidence, deep down, Wood Rats are the least sure of themselves compared to other Rats. However, they wouldn't dream of showing this side of themselves to anyone. Only close companions of a Wood Rat would ever suspect that he or she had such self-doubt. In fact Wood Rats are often worried about downfall, despite their ability to find success. Well-liked, proficient, and good leaders at work, Wood Rats seem to function best when they are surrounded by family and friends. Cordial and delicate, they are usually well loved by family, friends and peers.

THE FIRE RAT 1936 AND 1996

Fire adds a bit of spontaneity and vigor to the already spirited Rat. These Rats like change and travel and are eager to start new projects or to take trips to exotic places. Fire Rats are likely to change their occupations and residences more often than most, and essentially shun any kind of routine. They can be anxious and impulsive, but their zest for life is quite irresistible, and they have the Rat's ability to along so well with others. Compared to other Rats, Fire Rats are likely to be more charitable, autonomous, and energetic and the least self-controlled.

THE EARTH RAT 1948 AND 2008

The Earth adds solidity to the Rat's personality. An Earth Rat is conventional and a good achiever who likes to establish roots early in order to make a secure future for himself and his family. These Rats have the typical Rat ingenuity and mental capacity, but a strong sense of reality often alludes them preventing them from going after anything that could be impromptu. Earth Rats are honorable and love to be stabilized. Slowly and steadily acquiring wealth gives them a sense of inner peace. Although they are capable of being stingy with their finances, they do possess warm feelings for their family and friends.

Health and home
RAT HEALTH
The affect of the sign of the Rat is energetic, and demonstrates enough endurance to fight most any sickness. Yet, all Rats tend to be tense, full of nervous energy, petulant and prone to stress. Rats also harbor a bit of aggression; yet, they are usually able to control it. Yoga would benefit Rats by calming their aggressive natures and helping them manage stress.

AT HOME WITH THE RAT

Rats make good homemakers who are always willing to do household chores. Rats are not usually interested in keeping up with the times, and it doesn't matter to them whether or not their furnishings are in style. What does matter is that their home is a refuge expressing warmth, comfort and vogue. Light blue is their color of choice for home decor. Because this is a sign of acquisition, the Rat person's house is presumably bursting with various knick-knacks collected over the years. Most Rats are cheerful, domesticated individuals who find happiness at home with their family.

Career and finance
THE RAT ON THE JOB
The Chinese say others should always listen to the advice of the Rat. Because of their intellect and observatory powers, Rat people possess prudence and perception. They can anticipate problems, and are always able to see the big picture. They can hone in on issues at hand and make measurable judgments. These skills, combined with their sense of aspiration also make them clever operators. Status, money, title, and recognition are important to the Rat. They have keen senses of observation that allow them to foresee upcoming business opportunities as well as potential occupational problems. The Rat makes a better boss than an employee and, although motivated, they can be pinned down by routines. Rats work better in flexible situations where they can be freely creative.

MONEY AND THE RAT
Cunning and thrifty, Rats have a knack with money and are apt to save for rainy days. When capable, the Rat is a great money saver, and in strapped times he knows how to make something out of nothing or how to turn make things advantageous for himself. Although few Rats suffer financially, the Chinese have a proverb: They who pile up grain hoards have much to lose.

RAT CAREERS
Those born in the Year of the Rat also share the same kinds of goals and objectives in life. The occupations best suited for the Rat are listed below:

RATS MAKE EXCELLENT:
Writers, Broadcasters, Actors, Advisors, Counselors, Lawyers, Politicians, Designers, Engineers, Managers, Directors, Administrators, Entrepreneurs, Musicians, Stand-up Comedians, Researchers, Historians, Race Car Drivers

CONGENIAL BUSINESS PARTNERS
Whether Rats are compatible with their business partners depends on whether their signs are harmonious or antagonistic to those of their partners. Considering the congruity of their own characters and the characters of their business colleagues can also be very useful.

Rats Ruled By Benefit From Are Antagonistic to
Metal Earth Dragons Fire Sheep
Water Metal Rabbits Earth Horses
Wood Water Monkeys Metal Snakes
Fire Wood Oxen Water Rats
Earth Fire Pigs Wood Roosters
Leisurely activities and pleasures
LIKES AND DISLIKES
Since Rats are born under the same Animal sign, they often share likes and dislikes. Following are similar likes and dislikes of the Rats personality:
Rats Like:
Color Preference: Light-Blue
Gems and Stones: Diamond, Amethyst, Garnet
Suitable Gifts: car accessories, art books, gym memberships, geographical maps
Hobbies and Pastimes: Interior design, playing basketball, crafts, painting
Rats' Dislike: Doing without things they want, strict time keeping, any routines, being at the end of the line

THE RAT VACATION
Travel delights the Rat personality and ignites his curiosity. Sunbathing is not the ideal way for a Rat to spend his vacation. Rats are adventurers. They want to explore, examine, visit and party during their time off. They want to try new foods, find new sights and experience the culture of the area they are visiting. And, of course, if they can come home with an exotic souvenir to add to their collection their vacation will have been an instant success.

FRIENDS AND ENEMIES
Generally friendly and sociable, the Rat is one of the extroverts of the Animal Zodiac. Often, the Rat is lively and genial, and has a special gift for easing the minds of others. It is not surprising that Rats have a lot of friends. They are great speakers and intriguing conversationalists, and can generally find something to say on just about any topic or subject. Of course, there is always that renowned Rat lure that allows them to charm the pants off of people! To the people they love, Rats can be amazingly charitable, popular and supportive, and will go out of their way to be certain their loved ones are content. On the other hand, if the Rat does not like someone, he is considered fair game and can be used to achieve any and all of the Rat's desires. At the end of the day, though, the Rat is a loyal friend and will be there for his companions through thick and thin.

Compatible Friends: Dragons and Monkeys
Mortal Enemy: Horses

RAT PARENTS AND CHILDREN
Rat parents are dedicated to their children. They encompass their little ones with love and attention and enjoy watching their offspring grow and experience the world. When their children are small they brood a great deal over them. Rats become concerned if their babies don't develop as quickly as other children. They anguish over whether or not they are raising their youngsters correctly. With the mental capacity to pick things up easily, Rats tend to get agitated with people who are not quite as quick-witted as they are. No wonder this trait could lead to conflict between Rat parents and their children should any of their children be late bloomers or harbor learning disabilities. Overall, Rats are indulgent parents who don't like denying their youngsters of things they want, and the children soon learn how to wrap their parents around their little fingers.

THE RAT INFANT AND CHILD
Rat babies love to be loved and cuddled. When they are young, Rat babies tend to depend tremendously on their parents, but later in life they develop natural leadership qualities. During their baby years, Rats mature slowly, but gain momentum as they become toddlers. Eventually, they begin to exhibit active mentalities, so, in the early years, plenty of sleep is necessary. In school, the young Rats are eager to learn. It is then, too, that Rats begin collecting things, and like to fill their bedrooms with pebbles, shells and keepsakes of every kind. Generally, young Rats are smart little people who are artistic and literary students. They are well-rounded and many of them do well in sports, too. Being born in the first sign of the Chinese horoscope motivates these children to be pioneers and gives them a need to be first in line.

RAT PARENT/CHILD KINSHIPS
Some parents click immediately with their children and others find they will never have a close relationship no matter how hard they try to make it happen. Following are the compatibility ratings between Rat parents and their children.

Lovers and partners

Rats are beautiful people with magnetic personalities. The Rat himself can't help but notice the admiration he receives from others. If the Chinese say there are few poor Rats, there are an even fewer number who are not sexually stimulating- especially as young people. Rat people are romantic, and are always happier to have someone to share with.

RAT ENRAPTURE
One of the Rat's greatest assets is his charm. Rats can melt hearts with their smiles. Add that to their coquettish personalities and you can easily see how they conquer the hearts of others. And, since Rats love to go out, they have plenty of chances to meet potential suitors or future partners. An annoying quirk of some Rats is they have a difficult time severing ties with former lovers. Obviously, this can pose potential conflicts for the Rat and his new lover and can even endanger his ability to develop new relationships. When the Rat finally settles down with Mr. or Ms. Right, he will find a sincere satisfaction in the intimacy of the partnership.

A RAT'S PARTNER
Although Rats like to be in the driver's seat, they do need partners who can keep up with their active lifestyles. Chinese horoscopes are very specific about which partnerships have the potential to be successful in love and in business. Yet, though destiny can point us in the right direction, we must still make efforts to maintain loving relationships. Following is a brief description of how a Rat will affect a relationship with other Animal signs.

PARTNERS IN LOVE
Rat*Rat
This is a prosperous partnership, especially in a business atmosphere. These two are bound to compete!
Rat*Ox
Very sexually enticing, yet likely to fail at marriage.
Rat*Tiger
Potential for great companionship, but you will have some major disputes.
Rat*Rabbit
Rats think Rabbits are boring. Rabbits love to be out and about. You will only frustrate each other.
Rat*Dragon
A solid, caring partnership. You value each other and get along very well.
Rat*Snake
Work on your differences and you could learn something form each other.
Rat*Horse
Don't even think about it.
Rat*Sheep
If you both try hard and make great efforts, you will survive.
Rat*Monkey
You share similar goals and will make a great match.
Rat*Rooster
It's just not worth it…there are too many conflicts.
Rat*Dog
Rats think Dogs are tiresome, but you have the potential to be a good match for each other.
Rat*Pig
Uphill, downhill, uphill…you love each other intensely, but keep an eye on your checkbooks!

EAST MEETS WEST
ARIES RAT
These are secure, bold, go-getting people who cannot pass on a challenge. Approachable and captivating, Aries Rats can also be short-tempered and touchy, especially with those who can't keep up.

LIBRAN RAT
Doubly affable, Libran Rats are smooth operators. These people are elegant and cultured. They are drawn to artistic pleasures such as music and theater. Pleasant to be around, Libran Rats excel in advertising and PR.

TAUREAN RAT
Taurean Rats are intimidating people. Their sharp minds never skip a beat and they don't lose sight of their goals. Conventional deep down, making money is their motivating factor.

SCORPIO RAT
Scorpio Rats are the strong, emotional types. Few would suspect quite sensitive these Rats are. They have an intense aura that allows them to channel their energies.

GEMINI RAT
Gemini Rats are blessed with the gift of the conversation. They are articulate and keen. Easily bored, Gemini Rats thrive on variety, and are happiest with their hands in many things. They do tend to take a long time to make decisions and once they so, to change their minds a few times.

SAGITTARIAN RAT
Sagittarian Rats sail through life and couple wisdom with perceptive. They can spot an opportunity a mile away, and are quick to act on it. Generally, these Rats are lucky but they have itchy feet.

CANCERIAN RAT
Cancerian Rats like to be individuals and to stand out. Material things are important to them, but what they value their family more than anything else.

CAPRICORN RAT
Industrial and tenacious, Capricorn Rats are profoundly enterprising and make substantial progress in their occupations. These people expect their dedication to be rewarded. They may not be that sentimental, but they are loyal and honest.

LEONINE RAT
The Leonine Rat is a mystical personality, dynamic and responsive. In addition to enthusiasm, high ethical standards and wise decision-making guarantee this Rat will be successful.

AQUARIAN RAT
A bit unorthodox, these Rats are impulsive and outgoing. They are community-minded and more selfless than other Rats. Aquarian Rats are determined to work hard in order to better mankind.

VIRGO RAT
With gifts for research and experimentation and an eye for detail, these Rats have the capability to make small assessments. The hard-working Virgo Rat will find fulfillment in any job where intense investigation is necessary. There is something naive about them that attracts quieter, frailer people as their partners.

PISCEAN RAT
This Rat is delicate and incisive, and does well as a consultant or a counselor. Piscean Rats are creative, but tend to lack the confidence necessary and thus feel a need to be part of a team.

segunda-feira, 27 de agosto de 2007

World of Mirrors/Mundo de Espelhos

Dei comigo num quarto
Mesmo no centro
Em cada parede um grande espelho
Cada um representando uma prespectiva diferente
Uma prespectiva diferente de mim

De repente sinto movimento
Cada um dos espelhos desintegra-se
No seu lugar
Quatro pessoas surgem

Falo para elas
Nao parecem escutar
Tento explicar
Que sou mais do que elas vêem
Nao se importam

Aparentam ter tomado a sua decisao
Já decidiram quem eu sou
Apenas atraves da pequena prespectiva que viram de mim
Já me julgaram pela minha aparencia

Nao se dando ao trabalho de descobrir
Quem eu sou realmente
Quem eu sou como um todo
Apenas me olham fixamente

Num canto
No abraço das sombras
Vejo alguem que nao reconheço
De repente descubro
Que a pessoa nas sombras sou eu

Olhando para mim fixamente
Estou confuso quanto a razao a qual me foge
Entao encontro a resposta
É que as vezes
Somos nos que nos julgamos a nos proprios de
Forma mais vigorosa
Do que todos os outros

Sempre pondo em duvida as nossas
Ideias os nossos pensamentos
Repetindo constantemente que podiamos
Ter feito as coisas de maneira diferente
De uma maneira melhor

Neste mundo de espelhos em que vivemos
Tudo é um reflexo do que os outros pensam de nos
Assim como cada um de nos é um reflexo no espelho.


Lost_soul

Em portugues para a minha amiga Ana
e para todos para quem o ingles nao é tao facil....

World of mirrors....

Found myself in a room
Right in the center
In each wall a large mirror
Each depicting a different perspective
A different perspective of me

Suddenly there is movement
And each mirror disintegrates
In their place
Four persons now stand

I talk to them
They don’t seem to listen
I try to explain
That I am not only what they see
They do not care

They appear to have made their mind
They already decided who I am
Just from that small perspective they saw of me
They have already judged me by my appearance

Not willing to take the effort to find out
Who I really am
Who I am as a whole
They just stare at me

In a corner
Embraced by shadows
I see someone I don’t recognize
Suddenly I realize
That the person in shadows is me

Looking at my self I stare
I am confused as the reason evades me
Then I find the answer
Is just that sometimes
We judge ourselves more vigorously
Than every one else

Always second guessing our
Ideas our thoughts
Always telling ourselves that
We could have done something
In a different way, in a better way

In this world of mirrors we live in
Everything is a reflection of
What others think of us
As each of us is just a reflection in the mirror


Lost_soul

sexta-feira, 24 de agosto de 2007

Delain-See me in shadow

Standing in the shadow of our lies
To hide our imperfection
Doing anything we can to hide
Eyes wide open, but still blind
To see what really matters
Insecurity won't go
See me in shadow

Standing by the ruins of your soul
That cries for some more meaning
Wondering when you have
Become so cold
(So cold...)

And all the pictures of your own past are gone
Forget yourself, and who you are
Another life is not that far

Standing by the paintings of your dreams
That you have awoken
And all the purples, and the greens
Have turned to black

And the ruins of your soul have died
No more meaning
Wonder when you have
Become so cold
(So cold...)

And all the pictures of your own past are gone
Forget yourself, and who you are
Another life is not that far

Not that far...

Not that far...

Delain - See Me In Shadow

Another great song....

Delain-Frozen

Misty windows hide your empty eyes
Every moment, every whisper
Seperates you from me
I've been screaming, won't you let me in?
Let me see a trace of the places
Hidden under your skin

Answer me
Until the day that you do
I'll be one step behind you
Answer me
Until the day that you do
I'll be waiting here for you

Needles stick me when you look away
And your silence sounds like
Deafening screams to me
I've been waiting, won't you open your heart?
And let me in
Please let me in

Free your mind from doubts
All you have is now*
Free your mind from shame
It will only bring you pain

Delain - Frozen

No Violin ....Just a Great Song....

Bond -shine

Vanessa Mae Destiny

If i could play an instrument it would be the violin....

terça-feira, 21 de agosto de 2007

Try again....

When you feel you’re lost and can’t go on,
Tired and weary from trudging along,
The path was long and a bit too rough,
And every step so very tough.
The end of it all was nowhere in sight,
And you’ve completely lost the urge to fight.
Don’t despair, give up, but try again
A different life you may regain.
Life is worth living and fighting for,
The one who’s ready has much in store,
It’s easy to give up and accept defeat
But the brave one will always willingly repeat.
There’s many a time when you would have stopped,
Just keep moving on, head held aloft.
Don’t worry or falter, but try again,
Courage and strength you must retain.
Grit and dedication are steps to the top,
The climb is hard, but you cannot stop.
So many give up without a thought
When success was theirs if they had fought.
Why long for something with a wistful sigh,
And watch precious moments drifting by?
Arise, awake, and try again,
There’s much in life you will attain.

Source: ‘Wisdom’

segunda-feira, 20 de agosto de 2007

Angtoria...Thats what the wise lady said

I wish you could be
All you ever dreamed
Move on, no regrets
Try to be the absolute best

Stand on your own
You can make it, be someone
Win the war in your head
Thats what the wise lady said!

There'll be times, when you cant face
The weary lights of day
But be strong & believe
You can be anything you wish to be

Don´t let your fears, hold you back
Life isn´t meant, to be easy
Find justice for what you lack

Time will heal the scar
Be proud of who you are
Taste the phantasies that you dread
Thats what the wise lady said!

I came from nothing here I am
I won the war in my head!

Angtoria....

Dedicated to me and to all the visitors of this blog.

sábado, 18 de agosto de 2007

Goo Goo Dolls - Iris

City of angels....

R.E.M. - Everybody Hurts

Everybody....

sexta-feira, 17 de agosto de 2007

O que é o Amor?

Numa sala de aula havia várias crianças. Quando uma delas perguntou à professora:

- Professora, o que é o amor?

A professora sentiu que a criança merecia uma resposta à altura da pergunta inteligente que fizera. Como já estava na hora do recreio, pediu para que cada aluno desse uma volta pelo pátio da escola e que trouxesse o que mais despertasse nele o sentimento de amor.

As crianças saíram apressadas e, ao voltarem, a professora disse:

- Quero que cada um mostre o que trouxe consigo.

A primeira criança disse:

- Eu trouxe esta flor, não é linda?

A segunda criança falou:

- Eu trouxe esta borboleta. Veja o colorido de suas asas, vou colocá-la em minha coleção.

A terceira criança completou:

- Eu trouxe este filhote de passarinho. Ele havia caído do ninho junto com outro irmão. Não é uma gracinha?

E assim as crianças foram se colocando.

Terminada a exposição a professora notou que havia uma criança que tinha ficado quieta o tempo todo. Ela estava vermelha de vergonha, pois nada havia trazido. A professora se dirigiu a ela e perguntou:

- Meu bem, porque você nada trouxe?

E a criança, timidamente, respondeu:

- Desculpe, professora. Vi a flor e senti o seu perfume, pensei em arrancá-la, mas preferi deixá-la para que seu perfume exalasse por mais tempo. Vi também a borboleta, leve, colorida! Ela parecia tão feliz que não tive coragem de aprisioná-la. Vi também o passarinho caído entre as folhas, mas ao subir na árvore notei o olhar triste de sua mãe e preferi devolvê-lo ao ninho. Portanto, professora, trago comigo o perfume da flor, a sensação de liberdade da borboleta e a gratidão que senti nos olhos da mãe do passarinho. Como posso mostrar o que trouxe?

A professora agradeceu a criança e lhe deu nota máxima, pois ela fora a única que percebera que só podemos trazer o amor no coração.


Historia retirada do livro:

"Historias para a sua criança interior"
De Eliane de Araujoh

Máscaras....

As máscaras que vivemos na vida


Fiz de mim o que não soube
E o que podia fazer de mim não o fiz.
O dominó que vesti era errado.
Conheceram-me logo por que não era e não desmenti,
E perdi-me.
Quando quis tirar a máscara,
Estava pegada à cara.
Quando a tirei e me vi ao espelho
Já tinha envelhecido

Fernando Pessoa

Yes....

Yes
The world is a dark place
Surrounding us with obstacles, despair
Removing from us all our strength
Creating the illusion that sometimes
It would be better just to surrender
To accept defeat
And putting an end to all this pain
Stopping once and for all this suffering

In those occasions when everything seems
Without solution, when you feel cornered
Without an apparent way out
Don’t fight the darkness
Because you would probably lose yourself in it
Embrace it
Became the darkness

And think not of yourself, of your problems
Think of everyone else in the world
Who on a daily basis face problems some worse
Than yours, more life threatening, more devastating
And see that despite all the factors against them
They find the last strength within to stand up
To wipe the tears from their eyes and the ability
Against all odds to keep resisting and denying to quit

When in your mind
In your soul
You will be able to realize that
Darkness has already lost
Its grip on you already losing strength
A little spark of light starting to come to focus

Hold on to that light
With all your remaining strength
Multiply it
Create In yourself a place to hold it
Protect it
Nourish it
With laughter
With all the beauty around you
With a kind gesture of a friend
With the soft word from a stranger
And thank them for their actions
Because they are not without a
Meaning, they have a reason
It’s just that we are not allowed
To see it to understand it,
We just have to accept and for them
Find the strength to hold on

Making ourselves an example to others
And when you find someone in a similar
Situation, don’t be afraid to separate
Yourself of some of that inner light of yours
To help them, don’t be afraid because that is
Just another way for your inner light to shine brighter
And to continue to keep the darkness at bay

Believe it….


Lost_soul

quarta-feira, 15 de agosto de 2007

Keep The Faith - Bon Jovi

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For you ..... just keep the FAITH.

terça-feira, 14 de agosto de 2007

Origem....

A palavra "pessoa" vem do latim "persona", que primitivamente significava "máscara".

segunda-feira, 13 de agosto de 2007

Para reflectir....

Há alguns anos, conversando com uma amiga psicóloga, ela me disse que um relacionamento só poderia dar certo se estivesse baseado em três sentimentos. Eu, obviamente, imaginei que o primeiro seria o amor e os outros nem teriam tanta importância. Qual não foi a minha surpresa quando ela citou os três e o amor ficou de fora.

Passei bastante tempo refletindo se concordava com o que ela havia dito e somente depois de muito tempo compreendi que, na verdade, aquela era a “fórmula do amor”. Ou seja, não é possível sentir e, principalmente, se manter sentindo amor por uma pessoa caso a relação não esteja baseada em admiração, confiança e respeito!

Entretanto, descobri que cada um de nós, ao usar esta “fórmula”, obtém o seu próprio resultado, dependendo também da combinação entre o que somos e o que o outro é! Isto é, eu posso confiar, admirar e respeitar um homem, mas nem por isso amá-lo como homem. Posso tê-lo apenas como amigo ou irmão. Mas quando acontece uma alquimia entre a química contida em dois corações, aí sim sentimos o amor pulsar e expandir nossa existência como uma espécie de magia - embora o amor não tenha nada de mágico e, sim, de divino!

Na verdade, o que quero dizer é que existem muitas pessoas que acreditam estar vivendo o amor, quando na verdade estão alimentando algum outro tipo de sentimento muito aquém. Sentem-se tristes, desesperadas, perdidas, angustiadas e insistem em justificar todo esse pavor através da palavra “amor”. Sentem-se rejeitadas, desmerecidas e enganadas e, ainda assim, acreditam que amam...

No entanto, se essas pessoas parassem por um instante, se desprendessem desses sentimentos tão dolorosos e respondessem, sinceramente, três perguntinhas básicas, talvez descobrissem e se espantassem com o fato de que não estão vivendo o amor.

Faça o teste! Pense na pessoa que você acredita que ama. Pense na relação de vocês e responda:

1 – Você admira essa pessoa? Admira o jeito dela, o caráter, a personalidade, a maneira como ela encara a vida, as atitudes dela diante dos problemas, diante das alegrias, enfim, você admira a alma dessa pessoa?

2 – Você confia nessa pessoa? Você acredita que pode contar com ela, pode confiar no que ela diz? Está certo de que ela faz o possível para cumprir o que promete e está disposta a construir uma relação baseada na sinceridade e na verdade, por mais difícil que seja?

3 – Você respeita essa pessoa? Considera o que ela pensa, o que ela sente e está disposta a aceitá-la, por mais diferente que ela possa ser de você? Você realmente consegue dar espaço para que ela seja como é, sem tentar o tempo todo fazer com que ela mude o seu jeito, as suas opiniões e o seu comportamento?

É... talvez você se surpreenda com suas próprias respostas. Talvez você descubra que o que sente não é amor, mas capricho, falta de auto-estima, medo de ficar sozinho, conveniência, acomodação... Talvez você descubra que se acostumou com uma relação desgastante e cheia de desentendimentos, mas que nunca se questionou sobre o que realmente quer.

Muitas pessoas preferem acreditar que não têm sorte no amor ou que é melhor ficar numa relação ruim a ficar sozinho, mas na verdade estão apenas com medo de tentar, com medo de sair em busca de um amor intenso, com medo de se livrar de uma pessoa que só lhes faz mal e perder o lugar de vítima!

É bem mais fácil ter argumentos para justificar um amor que não deu certo do que se arriscar a encontrar uma pessoa maravilhosa, companheira, sincera e profunda e ter de lidar com seus próprios defeitos, com suas próprias inseguranças e buracos internos...

Pois eu sugiro que você não aceite menos, não aceite pouco. Busque sempre o melhor de você mesmo e do outro. Cultive sentimentos como respeito, confiança e admiração. Sinta isso pela pessoa amada... Sinta isso, acima de tudo, por si mesmo! E se não puder, pare onde estiver e proponha-se a aprender e se preparar para o verdadeiro amor, ainda que seja por esta pessoa que já está ao seu lado! Sempre há tempo, mas não demore muito.


Rosana Braga é escritora e consultora de comportamento humano

sexta-feira, 10 de agosto de 2007

If you are reading this the key is on your birth date....

O L H D T I Y X
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M T P S E P C T
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P G F O M T Z C
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E K T A V C D S
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P U H G K D A T
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J H Y E O V C S
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H T D S M B C N
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E F J L Y T R W
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P U G V X E N Q
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Q V C T E K L O
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O D T I B E Z V
1 12 2 11 8 6 4 7

K N B D U T M D
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J K T E B V C B
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A N J I T R E S
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H J T R S E W C
4 5 11 4 9 12 2 3

R S K Y O N V F
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S H G V D K U R
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K H P T R D B H
2 5 11 6 8 7 3 5

L N D O B W Q G
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T B C S R T L K
1 5 9 10 11 12 7 8

P M F K T S W V
7 9 5 3 11 4 3 2

I U V C F T O P
11 9 7 5 6 9 7 3

K L S T P O R C
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B K G D A O T C
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O F K D X L S X
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Y K G M T O D S
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E W K N G Y T G
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K S L M N F O P
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H F L Y O B D F
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B N D S H I O P
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segunda-feira, 6 de agosto de 2007

Just one word....

Uhibboki

quinta-feira, 2 de agosto de 2007

One....



Just one because you are the one....

quarta-feira, 1 de agosto de 2007

I´m nobody....

I´m nobody! Who are you?
Are you nobody, too?
Then there is a pair of us—do not tell!
They would banish us, you know.

How dreary to be somebody!
How public, like a frog
To tell your name the livelong day
To an admiring bog!

Emily Dickinson

Alone....

Alone i stand
Alone i'm walking
in the dark
climbing this stairs,

I'm looking for the light
present in your eyes
for my path to brighten,

looking down i can´t see the bottom
looking up i can´t see the top
the steps are small,uneven and slipery,

I´m affraid i might fall
but i´m even more affraid
of not having the strenght
to reach the top....

Lost_soul